A Dreamer 

Proverbs 29:18King James Version (KJV)

18 Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he

I remember being a kid dreaming of he day when I’d be a grown up so I could do all the things I wanted to so without my mom telling me no. I breathed in the air of limitless potential and possibilities and exhaled ambition, drive and success. Now I’m a 30 year old, university graduate, wife and mother of one still dreaming of the day I am free from life’s “no’s”. I know that a dream gives hope when reality seems to delight in beating me down with responsibilities. Most of which I took on because it was the “right” thing to do. Now I don’t know. 

I guess I’m at that place where the dream is very much alive. I know deep down that’s where I’m going. The dream drives me. It frustrates me but fuels me. It challenges me but when I deviate it leaves me feeling empty and depressed. I know where I should go buy when I don’t, I’m not myself. 

So what’s a girl to do? 

Only thing I can do is to keep going towards the dream. That’s my destination. Every fiber of my being knows it, why fight it? I’m due to arrive at some point so I might do the right thing and in this case, it’s to go towards the dream. 

Cute & Easy Naturally Curly Toddler Hairstyle

20181205_212245_0000119495712.png The holidays are right around the corner and that means family pictures, Santa Claus pictures, church pictures…so many pictures?! Of course, everyone will want to see your little princess of joy and take pictures.

If you’re like me, you want your little girl to look her absolute best. If you’re princess is anything like mine, keeping her still long enough to even put her hair in a ponytail is a struggle, let alone an entire hairstyle.

If you want to know how I keep her still click here.

If you want to see how I take a simple hairstyle and switch it up, then keep reading.

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Sometimes a headband is all you need. If your little is really against getting her hair done, a nice accent will do the trick. Here Mercy is wearing a white stretchy netted wide headband with a white blooming flower to the side.

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My favourite hairstyle is two high ponytails, one on each side. It allows her curls to be free and to be seen so close to her face without it getting in her face. I part her hair right down the middle, using a wide tooth comb and use two small soft elastic bands for the puffs!

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Here I do the two puffy ponytails again, but this time I part on the side. Then halfway through I go down the side. One side is smaller than the other and that’s ok. On the bigger side, I use the top part and do a french braid but instead of finishing it, I join the hair to the nearest puffy ponytail. Et voila!

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Here I turn the two puffy ponytails into two buns. It makes for an easy and simple transition without the effort.

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Here I separated her hair into two sections. The top part is left alone as a puffy bun. On the bottom I made two separate french on each side of her hair and then joined it in the middle.

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Here I separated her hair into three parts, and each part has a ponytail. The top ponytail is separated into two individual twists. Meanwhile the bottom two are put into 1 twist. 

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Sometimes I just let her hair flow free.

Her hair is absolutely beautiful and I don’t want her to feel bound by the state of her hair. As mothers, we just want to share the beauty and the love that we have for them.

I hope this was helpful. Let me know in the comments.

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Eat, Wear & Do: Sleigh Mama!

The holidays are upon us and we’re ready to sleigh! Get it? Sleigh, slay!

I know it’s cheesy but I couldn’t resist. This year I’ve collaborated with the lovely Miah Keleigh  in this edition of #sleighwithmiah.

If you want to know my top three, well let’s go!

  1. Eat!

20180802_203718-22050670882.jpegIf there’s pasta, I’m there. I don’t discriminate either. Spaghetti, fettuccine, macaroni, ravioli with some garlic roasted Alfredo sauce. Don’t forget salt, parsley, basil, oregano, pepper, topped with Parmesan (lots and LOTS!).

Who doesn’t love parmesian?

Garlic bread is just standard.

I know most people want an oven roasted turkey for Christmas dinner. That’s great and all. But pasta? You can’t top that.

Have you ever had an oven baked macaroni pie? With a cheese crusted topping?

You can do no wrong with pasta folks I’m telling you.

2. Wear

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I’m big on comfort. If I could I’d live in my pajamas but since I can’t well a tee and leggings will do. Pair it with a face that full of make-up and a pair of Ugg boots and I said I look like a “cool” mom!

On the days that I’m feeling extra cool  and want to take my slay to the next level, I just throw on a wig. Why bother with the heat damage, when I can just put it on?

Comfort + Slay = #winning!

3. Do

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Family is everything.

They keep me on my toes. They challenge me, make me laugh, give me new perspective on life and on me. They make life fun and full.

I am so blessed to be able to enjoy being around them.

Just being around them is what I love to do. Whether we are playing, talking, eating or watching tv, they make it all worthwhile. More than anything, I love being around them.

So what do you love to do? Share your thoughts!

Freedom=Self Acceptance

As a daughter I struggled with my identity.

As a Christian I wondered if God could make mistakes…with my identity.

As a wife, I wondered if my husband made a mistake. Better yet, I wondered if he really knew what he signed up for.

As a mother, I wondered would my daughter see past my flaws.

This week has been one of the most transformative moments of my life. I had been unhappy hiding. I hid behind my “holiness” to not appear disturbed. I have many parts of me.

All of them are me. I am all of them are me. I don’t have to hide.

I am proud of me.

Have you dealt with this? How did you deal with it?

Get What YOU Want!

2019 is right around the corner. Normally when I anticipate the end of a year I start to reminisce about my accomplishments. I start going down memory lane and also lament over what I didn’t do.

This year alone I have a lot to be grateful for but so much has been left undone as well.

The reality is, it’s not done because I didn’t do it.

I got what I worked for. All of the success I’m celebrating has been afforded to me in part because of the work I put in.

So for 2019 I want more. I have tasted success and am ready to go up higher.

How do I do that?

By planning for what I want and working for what I want. I must be purposeful in my dealings and ultimately be the better version of who I am right now.

I must take stock of my strengths and and weaknesses. I have to be honest with myself.

What do I bring to the table?

Is it enough?

Where/How can I improve?

Is it possible? The answer is always YES!

So let’s do it!

2019 is going to be fun.

How do you plan on getting what you want in 2019?

Share your wisdom!

Postponing Potty Training

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At 19 month old, my darling daughter has continually told me when it was time to transition on to the next phase of life. Though her vocabulary is limited (as any other toddler) we have transitioned without trauma or tears to ruin the experience.

When she started eating solid food, she needed less breastmilk. As  we included more  liquids and solids into her diet, she asked for less breastmilk. When she started sleeping in her crib, and started sleeping through the night, we just stopped breast feeding altogether. It was simple.

When she realized she could use her words to get what she wanted, she started using them more. It made communication that much more better for us.

So of course, when I started hearing about 18 month olds being potty trained, I thought why not? My daughter is just another genius toddler, she could definitely master this in one day.

I realized very quickly, neither of us were ready.

I had done my research. Read all the blogs. I even found a song on YouTube that made potty sound like a party. I asked for help on Instagram and bought a miniature toilet that made the flushing noise. She was sitting on the potty. I thought she loved it. She knew that’s where “pee pee” belonged, but…I miscalculated one thing.

She didn’t know when she needed to go!

My baby girl wasn’t ready. To be honest, I knew in my heart she wasn’t ready. I just wanted to be the “cool” mom who had successfully potty trained her daughter. But the truth is, we’re not ready. And that’s ok. It doesn’t make me a bad mom. I have to trust my mother’s intuition. It’s never been wrong, so why push something she just isn’t ready for. I’d rather wait for her, give her time to be ready and comfortable with it.

Keep the transition as smooth as possible. That’s the least stressful for all of us, wouldn’t you agree?

Dry Skin vs. Winter

#dryskin #skincare #winter

I thought I had the ultimate remedy against dry skin…then my daughter started having these rashes and I knew the battle had just begun. Despite my growing list of back up remedies my concern revolve around two things.

  1. Is it cheap?
  2. Is it safe for my toddler?

Money is tight and with the holidays right around the corner, we all should be comfortable in our own skin.

Personally I don’t want to go broke.

So join the conversation.

What do you recommend to combat dry skin this #winter?

Tips to Self Love the Right Way

Everyone’s talking about it but no many people do it right. Here are some ways to know if you’re doing wrong.

1. You still don’t feel like you belong at the “big kids” table

It one thing if you’re not mature enough or you haven’t paid your dues . However if you’ve put in the work and you still feel inadequate, then you need reevaluate the level of love you have for yourself.

Fix It: Tell yourself how AWESOME you are because…you are. Nobody can do what you do. You better grab a chair and introduce yourself to the “big kids” table.

2. Your loved ones don’t know all you…just the “acceptable” parts of you.

The good, bad and ugly are all a part of you. Now I’m not saying that everything you think needs to be spoken out loud. A spoonful of sugar will make the medicine go down. (Mary Poppins is the truth!)

Fix It: What I am saying is that whatever makes you different is your strength not your weakness. Flaunt it, don’t hide it. Are you a lady in street and freak in the sheets? Share it with your spouse and have fun. Are you a knowledgeable in useless information? Use them as icebreakers. Do you love making funny and goofy faces? Well then you are a master storyteller and an entertaining one too!

Your quirks are your gifts.

3. You always see what’s wrong with you …hoping it makes you feel humble.

All that does is make you miserable.

Fix It: There’s always room for improvement but when you can’t find 1 or 20 good things about yourself…well...

Look for the good in yourself. Trust me there’s many. So find them, ask your friends and loved ones (the nice ones he nice ones). Focus on them, amplify them and love them.

You can be confident and humble at the same time.

Let me know what you think. Let’s #selflove ourselves into the new year!

Looking Stupid…

Some of the biggest issues that I have faced in my marriage has been because I was afraid of looking stupid.

Today is brand new and it’s clear that no matter what I look stupid lol so might as well have fun doing it. Whether it’s via asking too many question or learning something, it’s to just jump in.

If I look stupid so be it.

It’s another funny story I can share and get a laugh.